American Women Don’t Want Their Men to Be Caring and Attentive

And it’s not sitting well with American men.

Mass media tells us that most women like it when their partners are more sensitive and responsive to their needs — when they know how to listen and care.

Well, we all thought that’s what women want.

However, a few scientific studies proved otherwise for American women.

• In a study from Pew Research Center, most men value physical attractiveness and a nurturing attitude toward a woman. Girls, on the other hand, want their men to be honest and financially successful.
• In a study published by the Personality and Social Psychological Bulletin based on research done in the US, “men find emotionally responsive women to be more feminine and attractive while the women do not equate emotional responsiveness in men with attractiveness or masculinity.”

This might have been what the men have been doing wrong!

Well, the logic is easy. As humans, we desire connection to people who think like us — or at least understand our way of thinking. By wanting a caring and sensitive woman, most men then assume that it is also what a woman wants.

When an American woman shows attentiveness, it increases her perceived attractiveness. This sounds easy, right? She can just ask him how his day went and his heart will melt. And then he will think that it will be the same way around.

But it won’t. And if there’s a similar strategy that will work for men, it has yet to be discovered… at least he has to keep his pockets full in the meantime.

There’s a bigger issue at hand.

While it sounds so simple for an American woman to just show a man that she cares, it’s harder than it seems.

In today’s dating game, it is not easy for an American woman to appear more feminine. With the rise of strong, independent women, many have lost touch with their delicate, feminine features. They are told that they need to “toughen it up” so they can conquer the world, and, in response, they question everyone’s intentions, even the men who just want to show them that they care and that they also want to be cared for.

This is where the dating wars began.

Even here on Medium, you can read a lot of articles about who needs to do this and that between American men and women.

The women want their men to provide and exceed their expectations when it comes to masculinity.

The men just demand domesticity and emotional connection.

Neither is willing to compromise.

What does this mean?

Well, this just suggests that the American dating game today is nothing but a trickier minefield, especially for men. And while the women are still attracted to a man’s financial and societal status and at the same time demanding so much, most of these men have found themselves an alternative.

These guys are now looking for love somewhere else, in countries where they feel like they are enough while also getting the tenderness and care that they want.

Now isn’t that a thought to ponder?

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