DATING ADVICE
Authenticity is the Best Rizz Anyone Can Have
Picture someone who’s just a natural head-turner when they walk into a room. Many just can’t help but glue their eyes to them, even if they don’t move an inch. Social interaction is a breeze for them
We all know somebody who’s got that magic. Sometimes, some of us even wish their confidence rubs off on us.
Perhaps that person has rizz.
The best rizz is an authentic one. There’s no faking a genuine aura, despite anyone’s best attempts.
But before I describe that energy, let’s discuss what the concept means first.
What Is Rizz Anyway?
Has anyone asked you if they have rizz? Has anyone ever told you you have rizz? If you’ve been asked either of those questions, you may have done a double-take. What on earth is rizz?
For those unfamiliar with the term, rizz is short for charisma. It’s usually used in the context of dating and relationships, referring to a person’s natural charm. So, when someone says you have rizz, it means you’re attractive/desirable in their eyes.
Gen Z-ers often use this term. The “rizz” tag has amassed billions of TikTok views as of writing.
Fun fact: rizz was The Oxford Press’s 2023 Word of the Year. As per a BBC report, it was chosen by Oxford lexicographers from a shortlist of eight words that came from public voting.
The term may be a recent addition to modern lexicons. However, the concept of rizz itself isn’t an alien one. Think of it this way: rizz is, essentially, someone having game.
Many people associate the idea with men, but here’s the thing: women can definitely have rizz too. After all, confidence and charm know no gender.
The Best Rizz Is Genuine
In a Verywell Mind piece, psychologist Michele Goldman says there are two types of rizz. “Some rizz is spoken, and other people have unspoken rizz,” she shares.
According to her, many people think of rizz as the ability to easily approach the subject of their attraction and flirt charmingly without a hitch. In short, spoken rizz means you’re a smooth talker.
Meanwhile, unspoken rizz refers to confidence through demeanor and body language. An example of this is direct eye contact with an alluring stranger.
The best kind of rizz is a natural combination of both. Not only do you look charismatic, but you feel it too. Confidence is always a good look on anyone, especially if it isn’t forced.
How to Up Your Authentic Rizz Game
Before looking for smooth rizz lines to say, you may want to approach things naturally first. Here’s how you can increase your rizz organically:
#1: Pay attention to non-verbal cues
Body language is just as loud as words. What good is sweet-talking if you don’t have the actions to back that up?
Don’t stop the mindfulness at your gestures. Pay attention to the other party as well. One move can say more than words do.
#2: Be candid when appropriate
Indicate your interest without coming on too strong through honesty. If the vibes are good between you and a match, throw a genuine compliment. The more honest you are about each other, the quicker they’ll take the hint.
#3: Muster enough confidence
You can’t have rizz if you’re not confident. Believe in yourself!
Now that you know what it takes to have the best rizz, go out there and try your luck. There’s no point in putting yourself out there if you don’t step out of your shell.
