Dating Advice
Burnt Out? Reset Your Dating Life
Hit the Refresh Button and Try Again
Do you feel like your dating life is going down the drain? Have you ever wanted to throw your phone in the toilet and never look back? Has your dating experience been nothing but horrible that you want to give up?
Your feelings are 100% valid. There’s nothing wrong with normalizing online dating, but too much of it will understandably lead you to feel burned out. What was once a source of hope has become a source of agony.
Maybe your approach to dating needs some adjustment.
Why Are Singles Getting Tired?
The internet is where daters often stumble upon each other. So don’t get it twisted; it’s still a fun place. You can’t predict who you’ll meet and when you’ll encounter them, which adds to the excitement of finding love.
But lately, some don’t enjoy dating anymore. It’s not just you. The question is, why?
These reasons may provide you with some clarity:
#1: Overwhelming options
Online dating offers users countless possibilities. You can find somebody from across the world or within a five-mile radius. Abundance sounds great on paper, but it can get too much for anybody’s liking.
#2: Superficiality
Clicks and swipes can only do so much. Meeting someone is one thing, but getting to know them is another.
The online dating experience prioritizes short interactions. Physical attributes take center stage and are often the drivers of conversations. And for some daters, that alone won’t cut it.
#3: Disappointment
Things won’t always go the way you want them to. As much as that sucks, that’s just life. There’s no changing that inevitability.
But when that happens frequently, it can take a toll on you mentally. Who wouldn’t get tired of constant ghosting and other heartbreaking experiences?
#4: Wasted investment
Dating somebody means pouring in your emotions, time, and effort. Sometimes, though, that investment is a waste. Connections with your matches don’t always work out as you hoped. And when this happens a lot, it’s bound to affect you in more ways than one.
What Can You Do About Your Dating Life?
If your dating life has been stagnant or unenjoyable, you just need to press the refresh button.
Take a break when you need it.
If your gut is telling you to press pause, do it. It’s okay! Dating while in a distressed state won’t do you any good.
Peace out and pace yourself. Your break (or hiatus, if you want to get fancy with the terminology) will leave you feeling refreshed and ready to go. Also, a new start is sometimes all you need to correct past mistakes or try new approaches that’ll lead to your success.
Don’t see dating as a means to an end.
Having this mindset is understandable, but avoid viewing it through that lens. It takes the fun away from the whole experience. Enjoy the moment as it happens and for what it is.
Shift gears and treat dating as an avenue for growth. Disappointments and wins help you become a better dater (and, by extension, a person).
A dating life reset isn’t strict or linear, so you do you. This entry should hopefully be a helpful reference point for your transformation.
