How to Date an Independent Woman

Let’s get straight to the point: No, she’s not pretending to be uninterested.

She doesn’t have to. She is, in fact, uninterested. She may be too busy to engage with or even look at you. That’s the price of being attracted to an independent woman.

An independent woman is often too occupied with her own business. She has no time to interact with people who don’t respect her schedule.

As most occupied women usually put on their social media biographies, they’re “too busy building an empire.”

However, her independence doesn’t mean she’s not worth pursuing. So, what do you have to do to get her to like you back.

1. Support her dreams

She needs to hustle, and you need to understand that. Being a strong support system to a career-driven woman may give her a good reason to keep you in her company. Encourage her to strive for success.

2. Take her out while respecting her schedule.

She’s not going to be available all the time. She’s already lucky when she has free days, and that might occur rarely. You have to ask about her schedule and plan things out ahead.

3. Be there for her when she needs company.

Being independent doesn’t necessarily mean wanting to be alone. Keep in mind that however dedicated she is to her career, she still needs someone to be there for her. Be that someone.

4. Avoid sounding desperate.

If she wants to keep you around, she will. Don’t beg or act like you’re desperate for her attention. The last thing she needs is a distraction.

5. Experience new things with her.

Explore hobbies with her that may involve creativity and fitness activities. Things don’t always have to be romantic, especially if you’re still trying to get her to like you. Be light and easy, like you’re her break away from work pressure and stress.

6. Don’t be the flirty type.

Independent women dislike men who are too affectionate. You don’t have to act like you’re all over her for her to acknowledge how you feel. Don’t even think about making that flirty remark or pick-up line. She will not appreciate it.

7. Pay attention.

Listen to whatever she has to say. As a woman with substance, she always has a say on everything. Pay attention to her and engage. Ask her questions to keep the conversation going. Not to the extent of faking your understanding. Trust me, she will know.

8. Respect her space.

Avoid clinging to her. She needs her personal space, too. Being with someone overbearing is a turn-off when you’re independent.

Pursuing her will be a great challenge.

That’s already given. She enjoys her own company and she’s totally fine being alone. If you’re not in it for the long run, don’t waste her time. She could be doing something else and focusing on her career instead of spending her time with someone that’s not worth it.

Don’t view it as a game to “win” her. She’s not a competition for you to win over. She’s an independent woman whose beliefs are firm and decisive.

An independent woman deserves a secure man.

You need to be equally independent as she is. She deserves someone mature enough to understand that her pace is different from the others. Good luck!