ROMANCE
I Don’t Want to Have to Teach You How to Love Me Right
Loving Someone Doesn’t Need Explanations
You don’t need to justify your love. You don’t need to explain your love. You just need to practice your love. Practice creates the master.
Don Miguel Ruiz
Do you know how some items come with owners’ manuals? Take easy-to-assemble closets and bookshelves, for example. Instructions exist for these objects because we can’t put them together without some guidance. Otherwise, they’ll end up falling apart.
However, unlike them, loving someone doesn’t need steps. Sure, tips are always welcome, but they differ from detailed procedures.
I don’t need to tell someone how to love me right; neither should you.
If You Know, You Know
How can I make you love me the right way?
Check the subheading for the answer to that question.
Look, we all want to love and be loved. You aren’t human if you don’t. But some of us can’t grasp that loving someone means giving and taking. Surely, this should be a given, right?
Well, some need a gentle reminder.
In love and relationships, we don’t need to say some things out loud for our partner to notice them, and vice versa.
We might not be mind readers, but it doesn’t take much brainpower to be observant. Even the smallest gestures pack much insight.
A loving heart knows how to feel. It knows how and when to give someone 100%, especially in tough times. It also knows when to back off and give someone else their much-needed space.
The heart doesn’t wait for a command or request. Instead, it banks on views and observations for guidance. If someone speaks a specific language (or two), it’ll keep that in mind and use that as a basis.
And with that, we should all have watchful eyes and sharp ears. It won’t hurt to pay extra attention. We become better partners for it.
Don’t Beg for Even Crumbs of Attention
Please do love me right. That’s all I ask.
Unfortunately, some make that plea because others are either clueless or selfish.
Do people need hints? Of course. Some of us aren’t too quick to pick up on things. However, that’s different from begging someone to love us the way we want.
When someone starts begging, they also make excuses as coping mechanisms. They believe they’re the problem for asking too much. They label themselves as difficult partners, feeling they’re impossible to love.
But no one should have to beg somebody to love them right. Breaking yourself for the sake of another just to feel them will leave you in a hole you can’t dig out of.
If someone truly loves another person, they won’t wait for them to reach that point to give what they need. Otherwise, it would be pretty telling of their character.
No Explanations or Justifications Necessary
Loving someone doesn’t need a reason or description. I don’t deserve someone who’ll leave me wondering if I should explain myself. I shouldn’t compromise my real feelings just to stick with someone.
If someone can’t love me right, they aren’t worth my time, investment, and effort. Keep the same energy for yourself, and don’t settle for less.
