Men’s Guide to Sparking Conversations Online

In the US, 23% of the population has formed long-term relationships with people they met online. This makes dating sites a convenient way to meet people in the comforts of your home.

However, it’s hard to stand out due to the hundreds of other users who are also looking for a serious relationship. This means you’ll need to work on your conversational skills to spark chemistry with potential partners online.

If you find it hard to spark conversations, here’s a quick and easy-to-read guide to get you started.

1. Ask for recommendations.

It can be a recommendation for a coffee shop, book, music genre, band, or a Netflix show that the two of you can relate to. People love talking about their favorite hobbies or passions in life, which can give you an overview of their preferences when it comes to entertainment.

It’s wise to provide a few recommendations of your own as well.

2. Compliment the person.

Who doesn’t love a good compliment? Just make sure that it’s suitable.

You can start by complimenting them on a particular feature, like their lips, sense of style, smile, or eyes. You don’t want to give the wrong idea by complimenting their body shape or how sexy they are.

Also, try to make use of flirty and friendly adjectives, like cute, lovely, charming, etc.

3. Talk about your goals.

It can be both your long-term and short-term goals. And it doesn’t have to be about work. Maybe you’re preparing for a marathon or a business venture.

Or maybe you’re nourishing your creativity by learning how to knit.

A lot of people are more attracted to those who pursue new hobbies or different interests.

As you know, a healthy relationship starts with self-development. Becoming a strong individual makes you more attractive.

4. Ask questions based on their profile.

This shows that you’re taking the time to get to know them. You can ask why they’ve chosen to share a specific fact about themselves or the backstory to one of the photos they shared.

Most people might have spent hours creating their profile, so asking about it shows your enthusiasm. It’ll also be a good transition to talking about your interests.

5. Ask them out.

Not everyone thrives online. Many prefer to meet their online dates or matches in person, and there’s nothing wrong with that! You can ask them out directly if you’re interested in getting to know them more face-to-face.

However, not everyone is a fan of spontaneous meetups with strangers. Maybe after a few interactions you can bring up the topic of meeting in person. As long as you covered the basics — your career, where you live, and your name — it should put their minds at ease.

Then set a date and venue that you’re both comfortable with.

6. Ask what they’re looking for on dating sites.

You’re both mature individuals capable of talking about your expectations. However, don’t use flat statements if you don’t want to kill the mood right from the start.

Instead, be specific.

For instance, if you’re looking for a serious relationship, you can write in your bio that you’re looking for a long-term partner.

Or, you can say that you’re ready to settle down and build a bright future.

Remember to Keep the Conversation Light

You don’t have to talk about deeper issues in your first few interactions with someone. You’re still getting to know each other to see if you’re compatible, so there are differences you can discuss later.

Your initial conversations should cover what you know about the person’s profile and that you’re interested in learning more about them. Keep the conversation fun and light.

There’s no deadline for this, so take your time. With enough patience and effort, you’ll eventually find what you’re looking for.