REGRETS
Life’s Lessons: 7 of the Biggest Regrets at the End of Life
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In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take, and the decisions we waited too long to make.
— Lewis Carroll
Some of life’s inevitable events are unpleasant ones. Among them is death. Its finality stops many people in their tracks, making them reflect on every choice and mistake. We’re often reminded to make the most out of life, because, as cliché as it sounds, we only get one shot at it.
The last thing people want on their deathbeds are regrets. There are a few things more disappointing than knowing you could have done something to avoid unfavorable events and create good opportunities.
People’s regrets vary because of different perspectives. However, many have shared sorrows that others can relate to. And with that, here are some of people’s biggest regrets at the end of life.
7 Regrets of Life
Try not to have these “what ifs” as you live your life:
1. “I love you” should have been said more often to loved ones
For many of us, vulnerability is a scary thing. Some don’t lower their guards because they want to keep themselves closed off. Others repress their love for people due to attachment and abandonment issues.
Don’t wait until your final days to reach out to your loved ones. Show them and tell them how much you love them whenever possible. Give them a call or leave them a message. Even a simple check-in from you would be greatly appreciated.
2. Taking loved ones for granted
Modern life’s fast pace makes us overlook many things. Among them are our loved ones. To piggyback off the first regret, many fail to show love to their families and friends because they take them for granted.
Our loved ones are just as flawed as we are. However, they’re the people who will stand by you unconditionally. Don’t wait until it’s too late to show them that they deserve appreciation.
3. Missed risks/opportunities
Risks are gambles that either pay off or end horribly. The possibility of failure is why many prefer sticking to safer options. Guarantees feel nice, but the what-ifs that come with them may haunt you for a long time.
Among the entries on this list, missed opportunities are, arguably, one of the more frustrating ones. Imagine having one of your biggest regrets at the end of life over a leap you were too afraid to take.
4. Overthinking
Daily stress makes many believe happiness is an unaffordable luxury. That mentality makes them overthink every little detail, holding them back from experiencing joy.
More often than not, people overthink things beyond their control. It’s not a knock on anyone because it’s human nature to feel stuck in your head occasionally. However, don’t allow it to become a chronic behavior.
Don’t waste time worrying about things you can’t control. Allow yourself to feel happy and enjoy the present. No one will judge you for letting loose.
5. Unrealized plans/dreams
There’s nothing more satisfying than living your life on your terms. Unfortunately, some people don’t have much autonomy in their lives. Why? Someone else may be controlling their decisions. In other cases, they’re limited by expectations.
Did you have goals or pursuits that needed to be pushed aside? If so, now may be the time to act on them. Don’t let outside noise stop you from living your life.
6. Lack of self-love/kindness
Selflessness is great. However, that doesn’t mean you should neglect yourself. You have your needs, and that includes treating yourself better.
Take care of your physical and mental well-being through healthy habits. Get enough sleep, eat well, and stay hydrated. If you feel overwhelmed, step back and take some time off. You’re not selfish for looking out for yourself.
7. Grudges
For various reasons, some people can’t let bygones be bygones. They won’t feel at peace if they don’t get at least some degree of retribution.
The reality is that grudges are one of the biggest regrets at the end of life. They take a huge toll because you’re wasting energy and emotion.
If you want to lift that burden, you should learn to let go and forgive. Will it be difficult? Yes. However, it’s necessary. You don’t want to make the remainder of your existence feel dreadful.
May these regrets encourage you to choose happiness. Wanting what’s best for yourself is not being selfish. Don’t live a life filled with what-ifs and second guesses, and then regretting your inaction when you’re on your deathbed. Make the most of your life while you have the chance.
