DATING
Shoot Your Shot: The Art of Making the First Move
Few things are as exciting as having a crush. Who wouldn’t feel giddy at the thought of someone you want to be with? Some of you may even be thinking of yours as you are reading this.
But what happens when that crush evolves into something more? What if you’ve gone past attraction and caught deeper feelings?
Crushes are one thing. Taking the leap and making the first move is another story. How do you shoot your shot without coming on too strong?
There’s an art in making the first approach. These tried and tested tips should start you off on the right foot.
#1: Leave regrets out the door.
Godly confidence is impossible unless you’re not human. As much as you try to shake your nerves, anxiety will rear its ugly head. However, don’t let that deter you.
Shooting your first shot may feel uncomfortable, but it’s a worthy pursuit. Nerves aside, making the first move brings optimism and hope. Even if you get turned down, you won’t feel too dour because you know you gave it a shot.
Regrets don’t sink in until later. Don’t let hesitancy turn your chances into missed opportunities.
#2: Study the subject.
Is your crush single? Are they interested in a relationship at the moment? This is the part where you do your homework (without stalking, of course). The more you know about them, the lesser your chances of getting your heart broken.
#3: Plan well.
It never hurts to proceed with caution. A little planning will get you far. You don’t want to go in blindly when pursuing someone because you’re total strangers and you don’t want to scare them off!
Whatever your plan is, don’t forget to temper your expectations. Realistic expectations keep you from disappointment, whatever might come after you make your first move. Planning also allows you to control your emotions, regardless of the outcome.
#4: Take advantage of technology.
If you want to make the first move without being intimidating, you can do so using your phone. You can send a message without coming off as a creep, provided you don’t start with suggestive messages, even if they’re meant to be compliments.
#5: Let your body talk too.
Words alone aren’t enough to express sincerity. Your actions should do the talking as well! This is especially applicable for in-person meetups. Eye contact and smiling may not seem much, but they go a long way in making a first impression.
#6: Let things play out naturally.
In an unpredictable world like ours, fairy-tale scenarios are impossible. Sometimes, unexpected moments happen when shooting your shot, and that’s okay! Don’t get too flustered and just continue going with the flow.
#7: Enjoy yourself.
Shooting your shot won’t be enjoyable if you’re tense. Yes, you should proceed with caution, but don’t let it stop you from enjoying the moment. Have fun! Let loose and don’t overthink things. Making the first move isn’t supposed to be a hellish experience.
Shoot your shot before it’s too late. Don’t let rejection discourage you. You only miss the shots you don’t take, so put your best foot forward and make your approach. Taking the risk is better than living a life full of what ifs.
