DATING & ROMANCE
Start Dating with Intention Through These 5 Moves
Modern dating is a lot of things. It’s equal parts fun, rewarding, frustrating, and taxing. It’s why some of us take a break and recollect ourselves before trying our luck again.
If you feel the dating burnout creeping in on you, you may want to switch gears and rethink your approach. Maybe try dating with intention?
Many dating experts have labeled 2024 as the “year of self.” In other words, prioritizing what you want and need in a relationship. While dating around is fun, navigating the scene with a plan is more fulfilling.
Turn the tides in your favor by making these moves.
#1: Give “vision board dating” a go
Say you’re planning to move to a new city for work-related reasons. And with that, adjustments are necessary — dating plans included.
How about changing your dating platform’s location to your future home? Since you already have a destination, take it one step further and plan your dating endeavors. What kind of person do you want to date? What type of dates do you want to have?
This is what people call “vision board dating.”
I know what some of you are thinking: why go through all that trouble?
Vision boards help you get on track. You won’t get stuck on a hamster wheel if you know what you want and how you want it.
#2: Consider hard-launch dating
By now, most of us know what hard launches are. They’re modern dating’s equivalent of a formal declaration of a relationship.
Instead of launching a relationship (since you’re still single), openly express your desire to press restart on dating.
While some think it’s too bold of a declaration, trust me when I say it’s nothing to be ashamed about. You’ve worked on and dated yourself for a while now, so why not reap the fruits of your labor?
#3: Unleash your rizz
Everybody’s got their charm. Nowadays, daters (especially younger ones) call it “rizz.” For those unaware, it’s short for “charisma.” It’s a timeless quality anybody is attracted to.
You may not believe it, but you can win someone over with personality. If you have a sick (the good kind) sense of humor, now’s the time to show that off. As cliche as it sounds, there’s a reason being yourself is highly encouraged when dating.
#4: Put your foot down on ghosting
It’s 2024, but ghosting, sadly, still exists. Some cowards can’t tell hard truths straight to people’s faces. It’s not your fault for being ghosted — some people simply suck.
It’s about time to resurrect those ghosts. And no, this doesn’t mean taking them back. What I mean is that you should dish out the truth before they can run away.
Do you feel like someone’s about to run for the hills and ghost you? Nip things in the bud before they get the chance to sow.
Send them a message saying something like, “Are you stuck somewhere? Should I ask for help?” This keeps things light while shedding light on your awareness.
Reclaim your power and finish things by saying you had a great time getting to know them but admitting things aren’t working. Don’t forget to include well-wishes to end things amicably.
#5: Raise your standards through your favorite reads
Yes, books are fictional. However, there’s nothing wrong with taking cues from them to raise your standards. Yes, good people exist beyond your favorite tomes. Take inspiration from your cherished love stories and write your own.
There’s no better time to start dating with intention than now. Good luck, and put your best foot forward!
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