SELF & EMOTIONS
Tread Carefully to Avoid the Dangers of Apocalypsing
Life throws curveballs (like the pandemic) that can make some people frantic and desperate to find love. Once they find someone, they go full throttle and amp up the serious meter.
Such intensity is called “apocalypsing,” a dating trend that emerged during COVID-19. Going by its name, it eventually leads to an unhappy ending.
So, you may want to think twice and tread carefully before stepping on the gas pedal.
Defining Apocalypsing
If the idea of an apocalypse makes you panic, this trend amplifies that feeling. If you have no one by your side, your world will end as you know it. You’ll be alone and miserable, living a lonely life for the remainder of your existence.
When you finally get together with someone, regardless of the arrangement, you take your relationship seriously, even if it’s only just begun. You want them so bad that you treat every moment together as if it’s the last. That’s apocalypsing at its core.
This trend may be a COVID-influenced phenomenon, but it’s not entirely new. It only went viral during quarantine.
Because people were cooped up in their homes without much interaction, some latched on to the first person they’d become attached to and never looked back.
Why Tread Carefully?
Don’t get it twisted. There’s nothing wrong with going all-in on somebody. However, treating every relationship as if it’s the last you’ll ever have is a cause for concern.
It’s not hard to fall into that. One meetup can be enough to send you into a haze; you start daydreaming about potential futures, like children’s names and dream houses.
As understandable as this reaction is, learn to pump the breaks once an attachment forms.
It’s one thing to be optimistic, but it’s another story when you’re addicted to that attachment.
If you leave that addiction unchecked, it’ll stop you from enjoying things in the present. You’ll find the relationship moving faster than it should, depriving you of the joy of getting to know someone. It’ll feel like a timer is counting down your every move, adding unnecessary pressure.
When you leave caution and mindfulness out the door, you’ll become a codependent and clingy person. And if it doesn’t work out as you hoped, you’ll realize you’ve wasted time with somebody who wasn’t a great fit from the start.
Keep Yourself In Check
If you feel yourself teetering toward apocalypsing, consider these suggestions:
#1: Lean on your support system.
Avoid falling into isolation. Your family, friends, and other loved ones are around for a reason.
#2: Hold onto your realistic standards.
Your standards guide you to get what you want and how you want it. In this case, they help you stay focused on finding the right person.
#3: Keep your eyes open.
Some people only share parts of themselves they want to show. Ditch the rose-colored glasses and remain sharp.
Some might balk when people tell them to tread carefully in love, but you really shouldn’t rush it. Apocalypsing may set you up for disaster.
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